Yet shame does not often direct us toward behaviors that will lead us to a more satisfying life. Conforming to the status quo never provides relief from shame, as the fear of “falling out of line” again will always be there. Shame disconnects us from others and from ourselves. It disempowers us in trusting our own decision making, our own skills, our own ability to know what is best for us in this moment. It renders us dependent on others’ approval for reassurance that we are “acceptable,” “valuable,” “worthy.” It breaks us down and leaves us scrambling to pick up the pieces.
Adjusting to University: It's Not all Frat Parties & Football Games
Going to university can be an exciting, rewarding, and memorable time in life. However, for most students, university also means big changes in your surroundings, your social life, academic expectations, and the amount of stress and responsibility you face. But for a lot of students, university can be overwhelming and scary…
